An aimless existence leads to degradation. Man cannot live meaninglessly. Every day he is obliged to live for the benefit of himself and the people around him. To walk the right path, each of us must desire something.
However, some people, having set a goal, cannot reach it. Others, on the contrary, go to her and do not look around. In this way they receive encouragement from life. What are these people called? Lucky ones? No, purposeful individuals. Why? Because achieving a goal is a lot of work.
What it is?
Words such as goal and purposefulness have the same root. However, if you just set a goal and don’t achieve it, then you will end up with nothing. From this we can conclude: setting a goal is one task, achieving a goal at any cost is another task. To always succeed, you need to develop a sense of purpose in your character. What do you need to know about this concept?
In psychology, the definition of this word sounds something like this: if an individual knows how to set important goals for himself and strives to achieve them through the use of willpower.
What does it mean to be a purposeful person? First of all, you must be disciplined, you must see what is happening around you in order to make one single right decision. This must be done consciously, as it means the following: you make a decision in favor of some intention. At the same time, you consciously reject other options. Please note: it is impossible to select several goals at once and go to them. Otherwise, you will not be able to decide on a priority direction and miss the most important thing in life.
Being a purposeful person means being a confident person. Only confident (note, not self-confident, but self-confident) people are capable of bold deeds. They can first choose the right goal, and then go to it and overcome difficulties. A person who is passionate about an idea should not just stop halfway, otherwise he will not be able to call himself a goal-oriented person. Moreover, a person who has ceased to feel the desire to achieve small and great heights will eventually cease to respect himself. He will also stop believing in himself, after which such a person will no longer be able to overcome the difficulties that are often encountered on the path of life.
Qualities of a purposeful person
Purposeful people have self-control. And this feature is almost the main one. A person must first of all make demands on himself, and then demand something from the people around him. Only then can it be called active.
Consider the main character traits that are inherent in a purposeful representative of society.
- The main ingredient is willpower. It is this characteristic that strong-willed people are endowed with. Will is not given to every person. The weak-willed people have no opinion. They live off the opinions of other people. Therefore, such subjects do not set goals for themselves. What for? For them, everything is always decided by someone else.
- If we talk about a purposeful person, then it must be said that this is a deeply principled representative of society. A weak-willed person lives without special principles. They are imposed on him from the outside by other people. Without his own principles, a person cannot resist the opinion of others. And this means that he will not achieve his goal either, since someone will interfere with him all the time.
- Without such a trait as perseverance, achieving the goal is impossible. Persistent people can defend their personal opinion. This is very important if a person aspires to something. Without such a quality of character, a person can be easily convinced of the opposite. Then he will give up his intentions and will not reach the goal.
- Persistence is another important trait. Without it, a person will quickly get tired of walking towards his goal. Any trouble can be confusing if a person does not have perseverance. Remember this.
- Accountability is also very important. Irresponsible people can lose all aspirations on the way to achieving the goal. They will not be able to bring themselves to do the work in the right format. Correct and clear actions are a guaranteed success in any business. If you do not adhere to such rules, it will be difficult for you to reach the goal.
- Self control is very important. Without it, a person will not be able to coordinate their actions. So she won’t be able to do anything. For example: if a manager girl, who eventually decided to become the head of a department, does not control her actions, she will make many mistakes. Thus, she will lose her job and her dream.
- Courage and purposefulness — these are two components of a person’s character traits that cannot be separated from each other. Without bold and decisive action, a person will not be able to continue to carry out his activities for a long time.
- Prudence. Without this character trait, a person will not be able to make intermediate decisions. And they add up to one whole thing, which is aimed at achieving the goal.
How to develop?
The right choice of goal involves the exclusion of other intentions and desires. If you have chosen a priority direction, then you should exclude other areas of your activity. To achieve success, you cannot do everything in the world at once: sew, knit, solve mathematical problems, be an analyst, etc. Otherwise, you will not succeed anywhere. Remember: if you want to become a good musician, you should devote much less time to sports than to music, since the latter is a priority.
To become a goal-oriented person, you need to start small. First you must feel a great desire to achieve something in life. And then you need to act in this way.
- Patience will help build confidence in character. A patient person can achieve a lot in life. To develop patience, you need to act something like this: take on activities that are very useful for your development, while you may not like it and bring continuous inconvenience. For example, if you do not like to memorize something, then start doing it. In this way, you will develop your memory and become much more patient.
- Developing perseverance is very important. To become successful, you need to act in this way: defend your interests, if you are sure that you are right, do not back down and go to the end in an argument.
- To be a stubborn person is to be a courageous person. You must not only insist on your point of view, but also be responsible for it. Only brave people can do this.
- Calculation is very important if you want to become a purposeful person. Both men and women can be prudent. Before you do anything, you must calculate in advance and derive a clear algorithm for your actions.
For example, if you decide to move to another city, then you must provide for all the little things. These little things will help you quickly adapt to a new place. Then you will not suffer losses.
And most importantly — the goal should always be specified. You need to set clear boundaries so that you know exactly what you are striving for. For example, if you dream of graduating from a university and becoming a highly qualified specialist, and then getting a good job and making a dizzying career, you should not start a family and children. If you want a full-fledged family, then you will have to give up fast moving up the career ladder.
Next, consider more specific examples. Thanks to them, you can understand how to develop purposefulness.
It is very difficult for an adult to change himself. To do this, he needs to find a serious reason. Just the lack of purposefulness can be such. Lacking this quality of character, a person cannot move on. He will be disturbed all the time.
Therefore, you need to read the tips and try to develop a sense of purpose.
- You need to develop willpower. To work it out, proceed as follows.
- If you do not like to get up early in the morning, but sleep until noon, then in defiance of yourself, start waking up every day, so to speak, at dawn. At first it will be difficult to do, but over time you will get used to the new schedule.
- Get out of your comfort zone. If you don’t like to travel, start doing it. When a person finds himself in an unfamiliar place, he involuntarily suffers. He lacks home comfort and familiar things. It turns out like this: he loses his usual way of life, and his comfort ends. If a person copes with difficulties, he gradually becomes stronger.
- You need to challenge yourself more often. Aren’t you afraid of this item? Then proceed as follows.
- Life is daily trials. If you fear them and avoid them, you will not achieve anything. Get into the habit of doing things you really don’t want to do. For example, start running in the morning. Most people don’t like to get out of bed in the morning. You will have to wake up earlier than usual in order to go jogging in any weather.
- Say to yourself all the time such words: «You can do it.» They said and did. For example, you don’t know how to learn to ride a bike. Despite this circumstance, buy yourself a bike anyway and start learning how to ride it. If you are not good at this, do your best to complete the task you have set for yourself.
The following is very important to know.
- To become a goal-oriented person, decide on your personal goals. To do this, ask yourself the following questions: “What is the most important for me, what is intermediate for me, and what is secondary?”.
- Break big goals into small ones. For example, you want to have a big house, family and children. Then start with the main thing — first you need to buy a house. Go to this goal. The sooner you achieve it, the sooner you can begin to implement the second goal.
- Determine the approximate time frame for achieving a particular goal. Remember that you need a certain amount of time to achieve each of them. Therefore, calculate your options and act.
- To better understand what you want, you need to visualize. You must clearly imagine what kind of house you will have: small or large. Next, you need to introduce your family: a beautiful wife and two (three, four) children. By the way, a woman can do the same thing, namely, imagine her future family.
- Keep your activities under control and try not to violate the deadlines that you have set on the way to your goal. Otherwise, you can linger on a less important stage for a long time, and the next ones will not wait in the wings.
You can’t tell anyone about your goals. Remember that true desire for something requires «silence».
Raising a son or daughter is one task. Another task is this: your child must be the best in the world. In order for your child to become a successful person in the future, you need to teach him purposefulness.
Let’s find out how to accomplish this task.
- First of all, you need to let your child know that you love him and trust him. This way you will get in touch with him. Then you can easily talk to him and explain how to behave in order to succeed in life.
- Show your child respect. In this way, you will let him know that he is a person who can achieve something in his life.
- Motivate your child to complete certain tasks. In order to realize this condition, you need not only to demand from your child the fulfillment of the set conditions, but also to fulfill them yourself. For example, if you tell your child, «Wash your hands before eating,» and you don’t do it yourself, then you are doing something wrong.
- Take control of who and how your child spends time with. This is a very important point. No wonder they say: «Tell me who your friend is, and I will tell you who you are.» If your child communicates with children who study poorly, disappear on the street all day and do not help their parents, then over time your child will become negligent.
- You can’t say to a child in an orderly tone: “Go and wash the floors.” You need to say this way: “You will help me if you wash the floor. I’ll wash the dishes. Then we will play together or go to the cinema.”
- You can’t force a child to learn. He needs to be willing to do it himself. Therefore, from the very beginning, turn learning into a game. While the child is small, read fairy tales to him and use a fascinating account. Thus, he will get used to the fact that learning is an integral part of his life.
- Do not overload the child with various tasks, otherwise they will soon get bored. At the same time, he may become interested in useless pastime.
- Don’t spoil your kids. Remember that buying chocolate or ice cream doesn’t have to be mandatory. It is necessary to explain every time that eating sweets all the time is unhealthy. In addition, you may not have enough money to “fill up” your child with sweets every day.
- Talk to your child about your difficulties. Do not hide the fact that you have a hard time getting money, that you need to save it. Then the child will begin to understand from childhood: in order to get something, you need to work hard.
- Let your child dream, and you support him. A childhood dream can eventually become a reality. Thus, your child will learn to set goals and go towards them.
- Teach your child to be diligent. If he does something, then let him do it well. Recklessness has never brought good luck to anyone.
- Let your child think about his actions. He should be especially concerned about the consequences. Therefore, explain the truth to him: bad actions will be punished.
- Teach your child to be consistent. Let him perform his actions in order, and you control him.
For example, first the child should come from school, then have lunch, and then start doing homework. Only after that, your child can go outside and take a little walk with their peers.
You must have an idea of how to achieve the goal. For this, some points are important. Consider them carefully to finally understand the essence.
- Forgive yourself for mistakes and failures. Some people, having made a mistake, stop going to the goal. You act in the opposite direction — instead of «folding your hands», get down to business with a vengeance to correct mistakes. Remember: difficulties not only «harden» the character, but also cause interest. A purposeful person is always interested in where there is an elusive goal. If you make a mistake, you may just need to change tactics, and then you can change everything for the better.
- The goal cannot be achieved without optimism. You need to constantly set yourself up for success. Even if you find it difficult to complete a task, still act positively. Then everything will work out.
- A person with a weak character will not be able to become purposeful. Therefore, strengthen your character in many ways.
- Maintain your health. Without this component, success in achieving goals is impossible.
- If you set a difficult goal for yourself, then you are a strong person. You will further confirm this if you achieve your goal.
- You must overcome all the loads on the nervous system with ease. Then the task will be much easier.
- Dreaming is good. However, in order to achieve the goal, you also need to act. To succeed, start small. So gradually you can “disperse” your activity and begin to move more actively.
- Enjoy the process of completing a task. Here’s an example: you started doing repairs in your apartment with your own hands and want to finish it faster. Then act positively. In between, invite friends over and share your experience with them. In this way, you will receive approval that will give you strength.
- You need to be fully focused on your goal. Thus, you will not let her out of your sight, you will be able to control your steps that you need to take «here and now.» Also, you will not be distracted by other, less important activities. This way you can reach your goal faster.
- Do not doubt that you will succeed. Only at the same time you must believe in the correctness of setting your goal and be confident in your capabilities. Example: if you set a goal to become a Rockefeller in a year, then most likely you will not succeed. It is impossible to «make» a huge fortune in such a short time.
- Without motivation, you won’t be able to move forward. Good motivation to achieve the goal is already half the battle. You must understand that you will eventually receive a well-deserved reward and will be able to enjoy it.
- Eliminate thoughts from your head that prevent you from moving forward. If you begin to be overcome by doubts, then chase them away. Think about the fact that tomorrow your mood will improve, and you will get down to business again.
- If you feel tired, take a rest. You can even go on a trip. By visiting new places, you will unload your psyche, you will have the strength to move on.
- Drop all your fears. Destructive thoughts bring confusion to your consciousness. As a result, you lose faith in yourself. So stop beating yourself up.