How to express your thoughts correctly?

The effec­tive­ness of com­mu­ni­ca­tion with rel­a­tives and strangers depends on the cor­rect for­mu­la­tion of one’s own argu­ments. The abil­i­ty to cor­rect­ly express one’s thoughts enables a per­son to estab­lish and main­tain good rela­tions with oth­ers, to achieve suc­cess in a wide vari­ety of areas. The out­come of a busi­ness meet­ing often depends on the lev­el of speech pro­fi­cien­cy.

The abil­i­ty to express thoughts in words is called speech. Achiev­ing mutu­al under­stand­ing is pos­si­ble only with the cor­rect trans­fer of your thoughts to anoth­er per­son. Their com­pe­tent expres­sion, the cor­rect choice of lan­guage means in a par­tic­u­lar sit­u­a­tion pro­vide the desired effect in achiev­ing com­mu­nica­tive tasks.

In com­mu­ni­ca­tion, it is impor­tant to con­vey your feel­ings and rea­son­ing to anoth­er per­son, there­by intro­duc­ing your “I”. There is even an expres­sion “speech is flow­ing into anoth­er”. In oth­er words, speak­ing is doing work for oth­ers. The abil­i­ty to con­vey one’s thoughts cor­rect­ly to the lis­ten­ers in words is not inher­ent in every­one. Prob­lems with the pre­sen­ta­tion of thoughts may appear due to a vio­la­tion of dic­tion, lack of the nec­es­sary vocab­u­lary, inabil­i­ty to con­cen­trate one’s atten­tion.

These qual­i­ties must be instilled from child­hood. Chil­dren should be taught how to express them­selves clear­ly.. Fea­tures of edu­ca­tion often deprive the child of full com­mu­ni­ca­tion. Adults dis­cour­age the baby from shar­ing his thoughts with some­one. A per­son who has grown up alone does not know what to talk about when meet­ing with his acquain­tance, what top­ics are appro­pri­ate to touch upon dur­ing a con­ver­sa­tion. Com­plex­es pro­voke fear and are the cause of silence.

First, a suit­able text is select­ed, which should not con­tain a huge num­ber of events and descrip­tions. Then they slow­ly read it, high­light­ing the most impor­tant points with into­na­tion. The child must iso­late the main idea.

Then, in a con­ver­sa­tion, they find out whether the baby under­stood every­thing. Be sure to find out if the child liked the sto­ry. After re-read­ing, a joint retelling is rec­om­mend­ed. To mem­o­rize and train the expres­sion of thoughts, the baby must retell the work to some­one else.

Good com­mand of the lan­guage makes it pos­si­ble for a mature per­son to real­ize him­self in the pro­fes­sion and cre­ativ­i­ty. The abil­i­ty to com­mu­ni­cate com­pe­tent­ly and con­fi­dent­ly con­tributes to the devel­op­ment of full-fledged rela­tion­ships and career advance­ment. You must be able to inter­est the inter­locu­tor, influ­ence him, attract to your side, so it is very impor­tant to learn how to use your speech. The use of quo­ta­tions and lyri­cal digres­sions in it attracts the atten­tion of lis­ten­ers, but one must care­ful­ly fol­low the log­i­cal chain of the nar­ra­tive so as not to stray and come to the right con­clu­sion in time.

Experts rec­om­mend learn­ing to clear­ly feel your inter­locu­tor.

• If he gets bored, he should imme­di­ate­ly change the sub­ject.
• Before an eru­dite per­son, they are advised to demon­strate their knowl­edge.
• It is nec­es­sary to say good­bye to the per­son who has expressed a desire to leave in time.

There is no need to strive to please the inter­locu­tor, because flat­tery and insin­cer­i­ty are detri­men­tal to full-fledged com­mu­ni­ca­tion. Com­pli­ance with the ele­men­tary rules of an annoy­ing and bor­ing nar­ra­tor turns into a pleas­ant con­ver­sa­tion­al­ist. A short, clear, con­cise way of express­ing thoughts is con­cise­ness. It sig­nif­i­cant­ly saves the time of inter­locu­tors.

• Don’t get too car­ried away with the details. Ver­bosi­ty makes it dif­fi­cult to per­ceive infor­ma­tion.
• You need to focus on the inter­locu­tor so as not to lose the out­line of the con­ver­sa­tion.
• It is nec­es­sary to avoid speak­ing in frag­ments of phras­es, jump­ing from one sub­ject of con­ver­sa­tion to anoth­er.
• Before express­ing a thought, you need to think it through to the end in order to know exact­ly how the sen­tence will end.

It is nec­es­sary to get rid of the use of par­a­sitic words, speech errors, col­lo­qui­al expres­sions, com­plex sen­tence struc­tures. Par­a­site words do not car­ry a seman­tic load, and their fre­quent rep­e­ti­tion clogs speech and makes com­mu­ni­ca­tion dif­fi­cult.

Nec­es­sary com­po­nents of com­pe­tent clean speech are intel­li­gi­bil­i­ty and clar­i­ty. The cor­rect pro­nun­ci­a­tion allows a per­son not to go beyond the gen­er­al­ly accept­ed norms and not get into an awk­ward posi­tion. The accu­ra­cy of speech involves the use of a word in full accor­dance with the mean­ing assigned to it in the lan­guage, dic­tio­nary. Wrong word choice dis­torts the mean­ing of the state­ment. For exam­ple, there was a case when the announc­er made an unfor­tu­nate reser­va­tion: instead of “accoun­tant-inven­to­ry” he said “accoun­tant-inquisi­tor”.

Expres­sive­ness of the state­ment is giv­en by speech diver­si­ty: epi­thets, metaphors, com­par­a­tive phras­es, winged expres­sions, say­ings, proverbs. There are inter­est­ing tech­niques that allow a per­son to learn how to cor­rect­ly and com­pe­tent­ly express their thoughts.

• The increase in the vol­ume of the lin­guis­tic stock. Read­ing clas­si­cal lit­er­a­ture con­tributes to the for­ma­tion of the cor­rect con­struc­tion of sen­tences, learn­ing to express the same thought in dif­fer­ent ways.
• Replen­ish­ment of vocab­u­lary helps to diver­si­fy phras­es. Some­times the lack of words pre­vents a per­son from cor­rect­ly and beau­ti­ful­ly describ­ing the sit­u­a­tion. It is rec­om­mend­ed to con­stant­ly intro­duce new words into speech. Their mean­ing must be spec­i­fied in the explana­to­ry dic­tio­nary.
• Train­ing of high-qual­i­ty mem­o­riza­tion of infor­ma­tion. It is very impor­tant to con­stant­ly devel­op mem­o­ry, because with­out the abil­i­ty to remem­ber and repro­duce impor­tant infor­ma­tion, fac­tu­al errors can­not be avoid­ed. Train­ing to improve mem­o­ry and atten­tion, to clear­ly express thoughts is to mem­o­rize the longest sequence of num­bers, learn poems and lyrics. Good nutri­tion, main­tain­ing a healthy lifestyle, phys­i­cal activ­i­ty, good sleep, walks in the fresh air increase the qual­i­ty of mem­o­riza­tion of the mate­r­i­al and human per­for­mance.
• Con­cen­tra­tion of atten­tion on a cer­tain thought. You need to learn how to focus on the right infor­ma­tion as much as pos­si­ble. Such con­cen­tra­tion helps to pro­nounce a thought with­out inac­cu­ra­cies, to avoid ran­dom words and erro­neous phras­es.

To con­trol con­cen­tra­tion, an effec­tive way of visu­al­iz­ing an object is used. It is nec­es­sary to imag­ine in detail the details of the desired image. For exam­ple, if we are talk­ing about a dog, you need to focus on its breed, col­or, coat struc­ture, activ­i­ty, para­me­ters. Then they are advised to try to imag­ine some action relat­ed to the image.

It’s hard to con­cen­trate in a crowd­ed place, so you need to train at home to do exer­cis­es with loud music or the TV on. In the future, the noise of the exter­nal envi­ron­ment will not inter­fere with con­cen­tra­tion.

Experts advise try to describe any house­hold object beau­ti­ful­ly, for exam­ple, a cof­fee table or a teapot, giv­ing things an expres­sive def­i­n­i­tion. Ver­nac­u­lars must be exclud­ed. It is rec­om­mend­ed to give the first word that comes across a def­i­n­i­tion in the form of a com­plete phrase. Let’s say that a per­son must first ask him­self: “What does a greet­ing mean?” And then comes the extend­ed answer.

In order to con­trol all speech defects It is advised to record state­ments on a voice recorder. Lis­ten­ing to the record­ing makes it pos­si­ble to iden­ti­fy all the inac­cu­ra­cies of speech, to notice the use of par­a­sitic words, rep­e­ti­tions of words, devi­a­tion from the main idea in the nar­ra­tive, loss of the main thread, an excess of terms or stilt­ed words, extra paus­es, a long search for a suit­able word, weak­ness of voice, uncer­tain­ty.

Monot­o­nous phras­es are not per­ceived by lis­ten­ers. Change into­na­tion accord­ing to con­tent.. To cope with poor pro­nun­ci­a­tion, exer­cis­es aimed at the cor­rect place­ment of into­na­tion­al accents and the devel­op­ment of pure dic­tion help. To improve the qual­i­ty of spo­ken words, it is rec­om­mend­ed to sing vow­el sounds in turn with a mea­sured tran­si­tion from one to anoth­er. Clear pro­nun­ci­a­tion is achieved when work­ing on exer­cis­es with tongue twisters.

We must not for­get about self-con­trol. In a dis­pute, words must be cho­sen soft­er, and argu­ments must be firmer. A sim­ple man­ner of speech allows you to achieve good results in com­mu­ni­cat­ing with any inter­locu­tors. Eru­di­tion, pos­ses­sion of use­ful infor­ma­tion make it pos­si­ble to con­duct inter­est­ing con­ver­sa­tions.

The desire to reduce and sim­pli­fy the lan­guage means used helps the author of the speech to con­vey a large con­tent in a small form. It is nec­es­sary to break the nar­ra­tive into small para­graphs, focus on impor­tant thoughts, sup­ple­ment the sto­ry with inter­est­ing sto­ries or anec­dotes.

Con­trol over the speed of speech, vol­ume and into­na­tion allows the author of the state­ment to place the cor­rect accents and paus­es. It is very impor­tant to choose the right pace for each spe­cif­ic sit­u­a­tion. Some­times mea­sured and unhur­ried speech is appro­pri­ate. It should be borne in mind that exces­sive stretch­ing of words irri­tates inter­locu­tors. Slug­gish and forced phras­es are often asso­ci­at­ed with poor knowl­edge of the mate­r­i­al being dis­cussed.

For a heat­ed debate, a fast pace is more suit­able. Too hasty speech must be skill­ful­ly com­bined with seman­tic paus­es. So it is eas­i­er for the lis­ten­er to per­ceive the essence of what was said, and the speak­er will be able to learn to speak beau­ti­ful­ly and ges­tic­u­late cor­rect­ly. A fast pace is jus­ti­fied when it is nec­es­sary to con­vey max­i­mum infor­ma­tion to the lis­ten­er in a short peri­od of time. But some­times it leads to annoy­ing reser­va­tions.

Hasty speech is often unpleas­ant for lis­ten­ers. Mate­r­i­al pre­sent­ed at a too fast pace is not always assim­i­lat­ed. An impor­tant thought is usu­al­ly spo­ken in slow motion.

The tem­po and loud­ness emo­tion­al­ly col­or the speech and endow it with a cer­tain rhythm and melody. At some point, you should raise the vol­ume, some­where you need to low­er your voice, and at some point, stop alto­geth­er, pause. Impor­tant seman­tic blocks of text are high­light­ed in a sonorous voice. Minor parts are pro­nounced in a low tone. In this case, the artic­u­la­tion of sounds should be dis­tinct. Too qui­et speech may not be per­ceived by the inter­locu­tor.

A squeaky excla­ma­tion or scream annoys the lis­ten­er. Do not over­whelm the audi­ence with too loud speech. The tone and tim­bre of the voice can dra­mat­i­cal­ly affect the emo­tion­al state of the inter­locu­tor, regard­less of the con­tent of the mes­sage.

The emo­tion­al back­ground is extreme­ly impor­tant. It is cre­at­ed with­in a per­son. It is unlike­ly that effec­tive com­mu­ni­ca­tion will turn out if the face of the inter­locu­tor with a frown and tight­ly clenched jaws reflects dis­con­tent and dis­ap­proval. A friend­ly per­son in a good mood always has a con­ver­sa­tion. A calm and relaxed atmos­phere sets up a con­struc­tive dia­logue.

The advan­tage of a writ­ten mes­sage over a spon­ta­neous oral state­ment is the abil­i­ty to think about the phrase. Work mes­sages are meant to be con­cise and suc­cinct. It is nec­es­sary to strict­ly fol­low the log­ic of the pre­sen­ta­tion of the mate­r­i­al. Dis­trac­tion to lyri­cal digres­sions is unac­cept­able. Each phrase should con­tain use­ful infor­ma­tion, have its own val­ue and impor­tance.

The read­er should not have any prob­lems under­stand­ing the text. In con­clu­sion, it is advis­able to read the mes­sage aloud in order to check it for har­mo­ny and cor­rect­ness.

Train­ing should be car­ried out in direct cor­re­spon­dence with friends, col­leagues, rel­a­tives. Before send­ing a mes­sage, it is nec­es­sary to care­ful­ly ana­lyze whether the phras­es are cor­rect­ly con­struct­ed, whether there are tau­to­log­i­cal phras­es in the text (rep­e­ti­tion of words with the same root). The expres­sion “I dreamed in a dream” should be replaced with the phrase “I saw in a dream” or “I had a dream.” Grad­u­al­ly writ­ten speech is enriched and improved.

Com­mu­ni­ca­tion often makes it dif­fi­cult for a per­son to express his rea­son­ing com­pe­tent­ly and con­cise­ly. An obsta­cle some­times is an incom­pre­hen­si­ble text, replete with sci­en­tif­ic terms. Exces­sive use of neol­o­gisms, bor­rowed for­eign words makes com­mu­ni­ca­tion dif­fi­cult. Some­times the used jar­gon and vul­gar­ism clog the spo­ken phras­es so much that it is dif­fi­cult for the lis­ten­ers to pen­e­trate the essence, to grasp the main grain of the state­ment. Prim­i­tive speech lags behind the high canons of Russ­ian lit­er­a­ture and looks styl­is­ti­cal­ly help­less. Slop­py, slop­py, inac­cu­rate speech is dif­fi­cult to under­stand.

The main task of com­mu­ni­ca­tion is to be heard by the inter­locu­tor. The sense of lan­guage is formed through­out life. It is devel­oped over many years in the min­utes of lis­ten­ing, read­ing, speak­ing and writ­ing. The more lit­er­ate a per­son is, the more demands he makes on his speech. A lin­guis­tic sense prompts an indi­vid­ual who is flu­ent in the lan­guage to choose the nec­es­sary word. The more a per­son speaks, the eas­i­er it is for him to for­mu­late his thoughts in the future.

Read­ing aloud sev­er­al pages of clas­si­cal lit­er­a­ture a day makes it pos­si­ble to hear beau­ti­ful speech every day, to form tem­plate blanks in mem­o­ry. It is use­ful to retell the con­tent of the read text, since in the process of retelling the abil­i­ty to find the main idea of ​​the work is devel­oped, to cor­rect­ly build a phrase.

Do not miss the oppor­tu­ni­ty to dis­cuss with oth­ers. It is advis­able to men­tal­ly ana­lyze the words of the oppo­nent and attack him with suit­able argu­ments.. Com­ment­ing on your actions allows you to devel­op speech turns. For exam­ple, while cook­ing, you should try to imag­ine your­self as the host of a culi­nary chan­nel, when apply­ing make­up — as a beau­ti­cian, and while walk­ing around the city — as a guide.

If it is pos­si­ble to pre­pare a speech in advance, it should be tak­en into account that intrigue gives the nec­es­sary back­ground to the sit­u­a­tion, which serves as a kind of hook to attract the atten­tion of lis­ten­ers. The trig­ger phrase can be an apho­rism, an anec­dote, an inter­est­ing case or a short philo­soph­i­cal dis­cus­sion. Then you need to stake out the main idea and let it float freely: pick up the nec­es­sary argu­ments, argu­ments, state­ments. Do not for­get about con­nect­ing phras­es. In con­clu­sion, the sto­ry needs to be sum­ma­rized.

The upcom­ing con­ver­sa­tion by phone or Skype should be thought out in advance. You can write all the infor­ma­tion point by point on a piece of paper. Writ­ing a brief plan will pre­vent unnec­es­sary digres­sions from the top­ic. It is advis­able to ask ques­tions to the inter­locu­tor in order to under­stand whether he cor­rect­ly inter­prets the infor­ma­tion he hears.

It is very impor­tant to choose a style, man­ner of com­mu­ni­ca­tion and words that are suit­able for spe­cif­ic inter­locu­tors.. Nat­u­ral­ness inspires con­fi­dence. Ease helps to quick­ly join the con­ver­sa­tion. If a mis­take was acci­den­tal­ly made in speech, you can’t get hung up on it, because the inter­locu­tor for­gets about it in a minute. A sense of humor helps to defuse tense sit­u­a­tions.