5 arguments against diets, or why I love fat people

Have you noticed that with the advent of spring, every­one goes on diets with­out excep­tion? Because sum­mer and the beach are ahead, because jeans are dan­ger­ous­ly crack­ing, because calls for the need to get in shape come from every iron. It seems that the whole world is divid­ed into fat, thin, los­ing weight and those who ner­vous­ly smoke on the side­lines. I smoke ner­vous­ly.

To be hon­est, I have nev­er been on a diet. There was no par­tic­u­lar need. Although in the last cou­ple of years five kilo­grams (well, sev­en) com­plete­ly over­weight has grown on me. Fee­ble attempts to get rid of him were not crowned with par­tic­u­lar suc­cess. I con­sole myself with the fact that I still fit into the emka, and if I don’t fit in, then I hap­pi­ly agree that this brand has “some­thing wrong with the pat­terns” …

And every­thing would be fine, but EVERYONE AROUND LOSE WEIGHT! Includ­ing those who weigh much less than me! Yes, I also like to look at slen­der, lean women with flat bel­lies and sunken cheeks. But today, I want to speak up for the rest of human­i­ty: women who are el-sized and larg­er. And remind them that they are beau­ti­ful! And also warn against a total pas­sion for diets. Because, hav­ing worked for many years in a wom­en’s mag­a­zine and talk­ing to nutri­tion­ists, I know some­thing about this.

1. Diets are not safe!

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I know for sure that the more rigid the diet, the more like­ly the sub­se­quent rapid weight gain. I know a lot of sto­ries when uncon­trolled pas­sion for new­fan­gled diets led to meta­bol­ic dis­or­ders, hor­mon­al dis­rup­tions, and in the worst cas­es — to men­tal dis­or­ders, anorex­ia and bulim­ia.

Of course, I do not urge any­one NOT to lose weight if it is nec­es­sary and you want it. But los­ing weight is still under the super­vi­sion of a nutri­tion­ist who will select an indi­vid­ual pro­gram based on your char­ac­ter­is­tics and lifestyle, and will con­trol the process. By the way, opti­mal weight loss on a diet is up to 3% of body weight per month. It is this pace that will allow your body not to “go crazy” and keep the result.

2. Losing weight is sometimes difficult to withstand

When los­ing weight becomes a mania, it inevitably affects rela­tion­ships with oth­ers. Con­stant talk about diets, pub­lic count­ing of calo­ries, faces dis­tort­ed by flour at the sight of food, and these eter­nal “I can’t do this”, “I don’t eat this”, “this is a calo­rie bomb!” soon­er or lat­er they start to tire (includ­ing men!), and some­times seri­ous­ly annoy. I’ll tell you, you feel rather strange when a girl weigh­ing 10 kg (enter the desired fig­ure) less than you end­less­ly com­plains to YOU ​​that she has become “fat to dis­grace”. And you don’t know whether to nod sym­pa­thet­i­cal­ly, or to suck in your stom­ach and crawl to the side, or to con­tin­ue silent­ly chew­ing your bun …

3. I love fat people

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It so hap­pened that the most pleas­ant peo­ple in my imme­di­ate envi­ron­ment are nev­er skin­ny. Believe it or not, most of the fat and plump peo­ple I know are charm­ing, fun­ny, friend­ly, wit­ty, easy to talk to, beau­ti­ful! And recent­ly I received this sci­en­tif­ic con­fir­ma­tion. It turns out that san­guine peo­ple — the most cheer­ful, opti­mistic and attrac­tive type of tem­pera­ment for oth­ers — tend to be over­weight. Of course, I know a lot of charm­ing peo­ple among slim girls, but remem­ber what Alice said:

From muf­fin they get kinder, from vine­gar they bite.

Looks like there’s some­thing in it 🙂

4. Completeness is not always a disease

Of course, we are not talk­ing here about obe­si­ty and unhealthy over­weight. But if a woman is just “in the body”, full of health, looks great and does not both­er about her weight — what’s wrong with that? By the way, the fact that we gain weight with age and after the birth of chil­dren is pro­vid­ed by nature. Per­haps that is why, as Israeli sci­en­tists have found, peo­ple with a small fat reserve live longer than those whose weight is nor­mal or in short sup­ply. And sci­en­tists from New Orleans found that patients who ini­tial­ly have a low­er body mass index die more often from strokes and heart attacks. So do as you wish, and I intend to live long!

5. Thinness is not a synonym for happiness

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Per­son­al­ly, I don’t real­ly believe that weight loss can be life-chang­ing. Well, unless you are a bal­le­ri­na, not a mod­el, not an actress. Hav­ing lost weight, we do not become more charm­ing, kinder, more fun, smarter. We don’t always get pret­ti­er. And cer­tain­ly not hap­pi­er. We just fit into the stan­dards. And the fact that men love excep­tion­al­ly slen­der gazelles is a big exag­ger­a­tion. Men love those who love them­selves, who exude joy and con­fi­dence. And they also love round butts and lush breasts — just what we lose in the first place as a result of diets …

Of course, all this does not mean that I per­son­al­ly will not try to lose a cou­ple of extra pounds before the beach sea­son. I’ll try. But not at the cost of incred­i­ble efforts and restric­tions. Ded­i­cat­ing my life to fight­ing my body is def­i­nite­ly not my way. I’d bet­ter learn to love him, includ­ing those five (okay, sev­en) kilo­grams on my waist. That’s why I choose straight cut dress­es, I’m glad that low-rise jeans are final­ly out of fash­ion, I wear slim­ming under­wear on spe­cial occa­sions and yes, I don’t refuse treats! And I real­ly hope that in a world where every­one is los­ing weight, I’m not the only one 🙂

How much mon­ey are you will­ing to spend on clothes, or is there a for­mu­la for ratio­nal shop­ping?

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