November 15, 2019, 11:34
The son of the leading channel “Ukraine” Maxim Sikora — Rostislav will take part in the Championship of Ukraine in karate, which will be held on November 16 in the capital.
The guy has many achievements on his account, and in his collection there are even international awards for prizes with Shotokan karate.
Now Rostislav is actively preparing and spending many hours in the gym. At the competitions, he will represent the Kyiv sports club “Saint-Bin”.
“Star Dad” shared useful tips on how to raise a child as a winner.
Rostik is a very tactful and sensual child. Many friends and acquaintances at first wondered how we even came up with the idea to send him to the martial arts sports section. But we are responsible parents: at first we asked what karate is and what it is eaten with. This is not a popcorn look from the action movies of the 90s with Michael Dudikoff. Everything is much happier. The basis of the philosophy of karate is not to harm the weak. In general, this is what a growing body and brain need.
Now, when Rostik is 14, and he has been with the club for almost eight years, I am aware that then we did absolutely the right thing. Sport gave and gives him an understanding of many complex things. Plus independence. It is very important. I know moms and dads who literally follow their children on their heels. In my opinion, such obsessive guardianship does not lead to anything good, but only nurtures a little egoist.
I look at the concept of demanding broadly. After all, not demanding anything means not being interested in your child. I demand from my son to be successful where he does it best. For example, now in the class Ros is one of the excellent students in English. He was even invited to the Olympics. Wonderful! The more such successes, the stronger the character.
On the other hand, every person from childhood must accustom himself to duties. If, by virtue of love, you cannot come up with anything for your baby, he must come up with them for himself. The easiest way is to invite the child to create his ideal daily routine. And then edit it together. It’s like a game of “try to meet your own requirements.” It won’t work today, it will work tomorrow.
About freedom and restrictions
Children should not be under pressure. They should not be afraid that they will be punished for breaking an expensive toy. It is better to convince the child that this toy does not break at all. And if Ros has already “stuck into history”, then I explain that he most likely violated the balance of interests and, by his act or behavior, put other people in an awkward position. And this should not be repeated in the future. After all, life is like a boomerang.
And I also think that it is not fair and unnecessary to demand from a child to be like you. For example, I love football and biathlon. He still somehow copes with biathlon, but he considers football to be an absolutely primitive game. And I don’t judge. For example, I have never been fond of karate, and my child is very promising in this sport. The difference is not a problem. I just want him to know (and he knows, by the way) that we love and support him. And if Rostik has talents that we don’t know about yet, then we, of course, will pay attention to them. That’s why we are parents.
About roles in the family
We have parity. We help each other and stand up for each other. For example, last summer I rolled up 10 cans of tomatoes together with Ros. You know, spending time at home is not hard labor. This is an opportunity to be and do something together. Ros sees all this and adopts this model of interaction.