A person always does what he wants, even if he does it wrong. After all, it is unlikely that someone smokes in order to simply find a new expense item. Or kill some of your free time for something that will negatively affect your well-being and prospects for surviving until retirement.
People smoke for a different reason, or rather for many other reasons. Moreover, everyone has their own, modified and fascinating, like the story of meeting a friend who spoils you, but at the same time it’s fun to hang out with him.
It’s time to answer the question — what do you achieve with your smoking? Let’s try to figure it out by looking at the top 5 most common reasons.
But, even if you don’t associate ubiquity with obviousness, on the contrary, very few people think and deeply understand the root of their addiction. Most often, these are excuses from the category of “stressful period”, “I just like it”, or frankly — “I don’t know, I just smoke, it’s better to pour beer, otherwise you go around asking questions.”
And in fact, I admit that smoking can just be fun. Because personally I really like it. But when you just like something, you can do it once or twice a month, but you can’t run to the store for cigarettes when you are late for work or a meeting. In any case, understanding why people smoke is a very interesting undertaking.
Inability to enjoy life
Life is good in itself. It is pleasant to live, whatever one may say, in every sense. If you do not fill your head with empty thoughts (those that do not lead to any change for the better), and just breathe, walk down the street and look around, this is also a kind of pleasure.
If for some reason you do not feel it, then this is a direct and immediate guide to action. To eliminate the irritant and again walk along the roads, smiling at the sun.
But the record never changes on its own, and if you have chosen a sad song for yourself to revel in your own drama, you need to understand in time if this is good for you? Indeed, one should always think about this.
Trying to track your state somewhere inside, in the depths of your attitude.
But instead of this (titanic work on oneself), it is much easier to take a fragrant cigarette and go out onto the balcony with candles and music, while drinking wine and looking thoughtfully into the distance. It is beautiful.
You are in a beautiful place, with a beautiful view, and you are doing quite an aesthetic act. With thin fingers you hold your cigarette, draw in the blue smoke and smoothly release it from your mouth. Beautiful — but useless.
At the same time, you admire the nature around, funny cobblestones, birdsong, look at what passers-by are wearing, hear the sounds of your favorite city — enjoy life, but you can only do this with a cigarette in your hand.
And this is not quite normal, or natural, otherwise, even at birth, you would have been accompanied by a personalized engraved cigarette case and an original zippo. All that we need for life we have from nature, you just need to take and use everything given for its intended purpose.
The brain — in order to analyze the situation, compare the ratio of the desired and the actual, and take appropriate tactics so that this ratio satisfies even more. Not in order to rinse a quarrel with a guy in neural connections a million times and dreamily smoke, portraying a performer of a sentimental Russian romance tired of life.
Not accepting yourself
Similar to the previous reason, but of a slightly different nature. In the first case, you cannot enjoy the world around you. In the second — by yourself, as a part of this world. This can be caused by the “A student syndrome” that helps in school, but only from 9 to 9.45, from the beginning to the end of the lesson. Then, it’s devastating.
You act as your own tyrant, and without pay or days off. The only thing you think about alone is what else to do to become even better. It seems that you look in the mirror, and everything is fine, but then you dry yourself, dye your hair a different color, buy a couple of new things, and then yes. Then I can enjoy everything that happens in full!
But remember the first point in this article: “Life is beautiful in itself,” and so are you. What remains to be done if drying is delayed, and there is not enough time to find the right things? Wave your hand and sit at home, with the feeling that the holiday is passing by?
Loving yourself is probably the most difficult thing, where is this taught? In a lecture on self-development, I once heard an amusing thought.
The father gives his child an example of socialization, he leads his child by the hand into the world and shows him how it works. Mother, on the other hand, is pure love for life, for all its manifestations, she unconditionally loves her child and teaches him to love.
But both father and mother should be able to do all this in order to teach their child, right? Yes, and to teach, to tell the truth, this does not mean standing at the blackboard and spelling it out at school. You can teach by example, and most likely, this is the only effective way. Not to tell the child how to and what is necessary, but simply to be happy and thereby prove the correctness of one’s concept of life. Therefore, if you had an incomplete family, or complete, but not fully happy, the reason for dislike for yourself may lie precisely in this. And in turn, the reason for your smoking is also in this. After all, a person who loves himself values his life and his health.
But don’t think that this reason fits perfectly into the self-indulgence scenario. On the contrary, now you are an adult and the responsibility for your happiness lies with you. Yes, something was wrong in childhood, but now you have everything to fix it.
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In this case, weakness is self-pity. If you are trying in every possible way to sweeten your pill with your actions, then you consider it bitter. And there is absolutely no need to write a lot about this. When it seems that everything around is unfair to you, and you are so good, but for some reason you are not lucky. If it doesn’t, then you’re doing something wrong.
And while you feel sorry for yourself and feed you with sweets or cigarettes, there will be no “business”. Weakness from oneself must be driven away, like a naked peasant from the street. You need to develop an allergy to your own weakness, and contempt for it. She does not console you in her arms, but simply suffocates you, weakly. Therefore, if you want to brighten up gray everyday life with another smoke break, think that instead of finding a way out of the situation, you just curled up and stroked your shoulders while reality knocks on your basement with a chainsaw. And there is only one solution — instead of “how to do and what to do, I won’t succeed,” you need to say to yourself “baby, everything will be fine, now I’ll show everyone.”
If you are a delicate nature, with a developed aesthetic taste, then for sure you like to romanticize everything that happens. Life is so much more interesting, you feel like the heroine of your favorite films or books. And very often such heroes smoke breathtakingly sexy. In each of these characters it is easy to see the features and attributes that attract you to them. There may be a lot of them, or maybe just a few. But you get some feeling from this hero. The one that so attracts, which you so want to take for yourself.
Remember school, the coolest guys have always been hooligans, and almost all of them experimented with cigarettes from an early age. For some, the experiment was delayed, but this is not about that. In ninth grade, it seemed like they knew something you didn’t. They, it seems, are somehow more fun and the halo of coolness is somehow inexplicable.
And now, instead of really having a good time and working out something in yourself, it is much easier to take some external resemblance to the desired form. For example, the main character of the film “Basic Instinct” smoked stunningly while sitting in the police station. There was a predatory and sexual self-confidence in her. But if you can’t handle men like she does, then a cigarette won’t help. And most likely, it is more logical to start with a gym and master classes in wum-building.
When everything is generally not bad, and you know how to enjoy life and know how to do it yourself, and in general everything is pretty good around, there is a great chance to relax that match. In such bliss, you don’t want to beat yourself with a whip on the ass and drive to new achievements at all. But life does not stand still, and as it was written on the ring of King Solomon, “Everything will pass, and this too will pass.” Sooner or later, moments of ascension give way to less pleasant moments of the bottom. And in order not to fall on it, you need to constantly keep the tempo-rhythm. Keep all your dreams and long-term plans in front of you and do something to achieve them, and there is not much time in the day. Therefore, if after work you like to go to a noisy fun bar, it would be much more useful to spend 20 minutes reading a book that you need than smoking. In addition, the press will never be superfluous to shake.
Those who say that they have redone all their affairs are lying to themselves. Things will always come up, so wasting time doing nothing is like spending money on cigarettes.
Understand yourself, take your time, do not burn bridges, and then it will be easier for you to quit smoking. In any case, it will take willpower to completely break away from your favorite habit, but it will be much easier to do something with an understanding of the background.
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